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Hi dolls, I have been working on my Goddess Garden every free moment I get. I am firery about it. Becoming a mother tapped me […]

5-16-16

hey sweet loves, We got home late Saturday night from Florida and got settled back in yesterday. 10 days away from home is a long […]

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5-4-16

Hi Yall 😉   Man does it feel good to have that story done and published! (If you haven’t read it yet you can click here […]

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4-28-16

Hi Lovers, Nothing too exciting to report. Just writing to say hello. Also sometimes I just need to write to clear my thoughts. My mind […]

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4-23-16

hi dolls, I just finished writing a piece for an online magazine. They asked me to write about my experience living in the mountains etc. […]

Trust Your Body’s Wisdom

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I am 7 months pregnant and I have never felt so overwhelmed with advice and information from people in my life. Something about being pregnant makes all those who were pregnant before you experts and they must tell you their opinions/experience. I have a hard time understanding why this life event evokes so much strong opinion and uninvited insistence for advice. I am so grateful I live in an age where knowledge is so readily available that I am able to do my own research and make my own decisions. I feel sorry for all the women who were held hostage by the past experiences of their peers, being forced to believe what was told to them, as they knew nothing else. I don’t want to sound ungrateful for the free advice I have been given from close family and friends, because I am grateful. It is the mothers that have come before me who I respect and value for their experiences and advice.

 

I am just now coming to realize that pretty much everything we grow up “knowing” about birth is completely wrong. After doing my own research I found that the stories you hear about women suffering in pain for hours and hours on end is not what the birth experience is about. In fact, I have found that about half of the comments I see on the Internet are from women who truly enjoyed their birthing experience and describe the pain as completely manageable and that medication is not necessary. There are still women who swear by the epidural and pain medications but part of me wonders if they ever gave their body a real chance to do what it does naturally before inducing and receiving an epidural accompanied by Pitocin.

 

I have spent most of my pregnancy at battle with myself about how I should give birth. I struggled with the thought of the pain and also with the thought of using an epidural. It wasn’t until now in my 7th month of being pregnant that I am finally feeling confident and calm about giving birth naturally. I feel confident in my body’s ability to do what it is supposed to do.

 

In the last year of my life I really began to explore what it meant to be healthy and how to be healthy. Being healthy is something that should be our default but in America, being healthy seems to be something we have to work at, and be conscious of. In my science classes I almost got the feeling that being “normal” or “healthy” was rare, that the human body could so easily be flawed and have complications. As I began to pay more attention as to what I was putting in my body I realized quickly that my body worked perfectly, literally every illness or issue I experienced before began to quickly fade as I watched what I was exposing myself to. Our bodies are not sick, our environment we put our bodies in is sick.

 

As I struggled with my plan for birth I realized that the notion that our bodies cannot do what they are supposed to do is permeated in our psyche for all situations it seems. I feel as though we have been told to not trust our own body’s abilities and that we need to be monitored by doctors, even for the most natural processes of life like birth. Yes doctors are necessary at times, but when I think about all the times I went to the doctor, most of the visits concluded with “Let the illness run its course, drink lots of fluids and rest.” In other words our bodies know exactly what to do and when to do it. We simply have to have confidence in our bodies.

 

My birth plan consists of listening to exactly what my body is telling me, I want to trust my body’s wisdom to know what to do and when to do it. I am excited for such an amazing experience as birth and I am hoping that after I will never lose confidence in my own body’s abilities again.

XOXO,

Haley Anne