5-25-16

Hi dolls, I have been working on my Goddess Garden every free moment I get. I am firery about it. Becoming a mother tapped me […]

5-16-16

hey sweet loves, We got home late Saturday night from Florida and got settled back in yesterday. 10 days away from home is a long […]

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5-4-16

Hi Yall 😉   Man does it feel good to have that story done and published! (If you haven’t read it yet you can click here […]

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4-28-16

Hi Lovers, Nothing too exciting to report. Just writing to say hello. Also sometimes I just need to write to clear my thoughts. My mind […]

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4-23-16

hi dolls, I just finished writing a piece for an online magazine. They asked me to write about my experience living in the mountains etc. […]

To: My (I just found out I am pregnant) self

letter to prego self

Relax. Breathe. Your life is not over. It’s ok that you’re not married. Actually, it’s perfect. This is all perfect. Travis will understand completely and, honestly, he will handle the news better than you are.

 

Having a baby does not ruin your body forever. It will change, but your body is resilient. Stay healthy and you will be back to your bikini by summer time.

 

Any advice anyone gives you about pregnancy, birth, and post-partum life is horseshit. Every person is different and every pregnancy is different. Just face it, you have no idea what this is going to be like and you’re going to have to figure it out as you go.

 

Do not read “What to Expect When You’re Expecting.” Do read anything on natural, positive, birth experiences. Hypnobirthing is the way. Utilize the internet.

 

Don’t be scared. It’s not scary.

 

Eat right. Contrary to popular belief, being pregnant is not a free pass to eat shitty for nine months. This is when your diet counts more than ever in your life. What you eat is what this little human has to use to grow his entire body. It matters for you and it matters for this baby. (Bonus, if you eat right you won’t swell up. Eat crap and you will blow up like a balloon within the hour.)

 

Do plan ahead a little. Babies can come early. Get your nursery set up sooner rather than later. Not only will it make you feel better having it all taken care of well before baby comes, but it is fun to do and fun to look at after its all done. Plus getting things done early leaves room for fun little DIY projects.

 

Treat yourself. Find little ways to pamper yourself, that don’t involve food treats. NOT CHOCOLATE. Being pregnant is not the sexiest time of your life; find ways to feel good about yourself physically. Buy cute pregnancy clothes. Put makeup on for no reason. Take pictures when you do put makeup on.

 

Do yoga, climb mountains, stay as active as possible for as long as possible. It will be most beneficial for post partum life. Your body will bounce back better than you think.

 

Make a birth plan, but know that its ok if it doesn’t go as planned….it doesn’t.

 

Coconut oil EVERYTHING. Seriously. Coconut oil is the secret to no stretch marks.

 

Go out with friends. Being pregnant is not a death sentence for your social life. Go to the bars and dance with your man. Take the odd stares from people and laugh while you sip on your water.

 

Document your belly. It’s an amazing time in your life to look back on. Revel in the amazing-ness of that huge bouncing belly that holds inside your greatest treasure.

 

There are no words for what becoming a mother is like. Again, you just have to find out for yourself. Take in every moment of the entire experience, good or bad.

 

As for after baby comes, yes you will be tired. But it’s not that bad, take a nap, you’ll be ok. Waking up to the cutest baby ever isn’t hard.

 

Learn to ask for help and not feel guilty about it. You are not superwoman.

 

Don’t feel guilty, ever. You will always do what you believe is best and that is all you can ask of yourself. You wont be perfect, but you will be good.

 

Learn to love yourself with no makeup on and no shower in three days. Walk past the mirror at 3am to warm up a bottle and know that the “tired mommy look”, looks good on you. Don’t wait for others to tell you how awesome you look 3 weeks after giving birth, know it.

 

Every day you will fall more and more in love with that little baby you brought into the world. It doesn’t seem possible but it is. It’s a crazy, I want to eat your face, kind of love. The kind of love that makes you giddy and burst out in that creepy laugh. It’s a love that consumes your whole world, gives you tunnel vision and then you realize that 4 hours have gone by.

 

That’s why you don’t sleep, or eat enough, or shower. Because you will be in a state of awe, of crazy, of all consuming love, that you wont be able to remember to do anything but stare into the eyes of that angel that you somehow created. Having a baby isn’t like being a slave to a screaming monster that wont allow you to shower or eat or leave the house. You won’t shower, eat or leave the house by choice, because the little baby you create is the most amazing thing you’ve ever seen and you can’t tear yourself away.

 

Bottom line is that being pregnant is awesome and empowering. This idea that it is something married people do is dead and kinda dumb. The idea that after having a baby you, as a woman, are less than you were before is ridiculous. Women need to stop terrifying other women of what it means to have a baby. Having a baby is not a badge of honor that you get to wear, or a club you get to join and then haze the new members by scaring the shit out of them. So lets all just stop it.

 

No one will say it so I’m going to say it.

 

Being pregnant and having a baby isn’t that bad. It isn’t the most terribly painful experience of your life. It’s the best experience of your life. It isn’t the end of your hot body, your life, or your career. This is the beginning of the greatest part of your whole life. Being pregnant and having a baby is easy and fun and I can’t wait to do it again.

 

…..well I mean I can wait a little….

 

XOXO

 

Haley Anne