5-25-16

Hi dolls, I have been working on my Goddess Garden every free moment I get. I am firery about it. Becoming a mother tapped me […]

5-16-16

hey sweet loves, We got home late Saturday night from Florida and got settled back in yesterday. 10 days away from home is a long […]

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5-4-16

Hi Yall šŸ˜‰   Man does it feel good to have that story done and published! (If you haven’t read it yet you canĀ click here […]

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4-28-16

Hi Lovers, Nothing too exciting to report. Just writing to say hello. Also sometimes I just need to write to clear my thoughts. My mind […]

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4-23-16

hi dolls, I just finished writing a piece for an online magazine. They asked me to write about my experience living in the mountains etc. […]

9-28-15

Hello lovas,

Baby bug is sleeping in today and mama FINALLY gets a few moments alone. That little man has been something else recently. Last night he was just up following me around the house until 10:30pm……

10:30pm!!!!!!

He is usually asleep by 8pm for the night.

I blame the blood moon.

So, this week is my last week before things really start to get crazy. My mom and sister are visiting this weekend. I am so excited to see them. Wedding planning, baby snuggles, and mountain time makes for a perfect getaway for them and me. Bonus! I have two extra people to hold and play with Phoenix so I can get some breathing time haha. That little man has a lot of energy and he needs some other people to give it to.

Before my mom and sis get here I will be studying for yoga training, redecorating our bedroom wall, and hopefully hiking to the Buddha rocks at the retreat with Trav and Phoenix. I want to show them where I will be for the month of October.

I am a little nervous to start full time at the yoga retreat. I will be there all day 6 days a week for an entire month. That is going to be quite a shocker for little baby and I. But it will be good for Trav and Phoenix to strengthen their bond. Trav has been working extra hard the last couple weeks to get all his work done and scheduled out for the whole month of October so he can just be with Phoenix and not have to work and juggle little man. I am so grateful that he has that ability with his “job.” ha.

Side thought: I feel like I need to clarify myself when it comes to the way I talk and many other mothers, talk about being a mother. I am honest in what I say, but I don’t feel like my little rants about not getting alone time do justice to motherhood. In fact those little rants I think can be very damaging and one sided.

Yes, being a Mom means a lot of your personal time is now someone elses time. You will be rocking a baby to sleep instead of drinking wine and watching Netflix. Ā To a lot of young women (including my former self) the rants of new mothers areĀ terrifying. How horrible life must be for a mother, I would think to myself. She seems to always be complaining and run ragged. She never gets alone time or when she does it is few and far between. That is what we are told in media, and that is what we hear from mothers we know personally. I am guilty of this, my own social media is filled with my little rants about how excited I am to get some alone time for the first time since I can remember, etc. But I also gush about my baby and how much I LOOVVVEEEEEE him. <3

I guess it seems more socially acceptable to talk about/complain about the woes of being a mother on social media than it is to gush about how amazing and incredible motherhood is. We have ALL said or heard a friend say how annoying “so and so” is on social media, always posting about their kids.

So because being a new Ā mom takes up a lot of our time, and we don’t get a lot time for things like social media (except for me, obviously I have time for that ;)). When we are finally alone and get time for it, it seems only natural to be excited and post about said excitement and being alone.

What you don’t see as often areĀ the posts about how amazing it was to watch little man fall asleep in my arms for the millionth time tonight…..that tonight was just as amazing as the first time. Again this doesn’t apply to me so much because I post constantly about my little man and I really don’t care if it turns people off. I am writing this post for the mamas who hold back bc they don’t want their friends to be annoyed by all their baby pictures. Or the mamas who start a post with “Sorry for so many pictures of baby.” etc.

Long story short: POST THOSE BABY PICS! Write the status about how amazing it is to cuddle your little baby. And also post about how excited you are to get some alone time. I just want young women like my former self to get a more accurate view of what motherhood really is. How INCREDIBLE it is. It is not a death sentence for your personal or social life, although it will change. Post all the amazing moments, hard moments, and moments you get to yourself.

Being a Mama is rad and very very “share” worthy.

LOVE LOVE LOVE to all my Mama’s, future Mama’s, not yet Mama’s, and never gonna be Mama’s. You all rule, just let whichever category you all into be ok with all the other categories too.

(P.S. If you are someone who gets annoyed with mamas gushing about their babies on social media, get over it. Someday if you’re a mama I promise you will want to blow up Facebook with pics of your little darling, and by judging others you are only limiting yourself. So just don’t do it. Keep scrolling knowing you just don’t understand yet what it is to be a mother, no judgement necessary.)

XOXO

 

Haley Anne