So that last two days have been “challenge days” for me. I’ve been getting alot of…..negative feedback….ha.
Clearly the universe is trying to teach me a lesson because it has been a major theme the last two days and I haven’t really posted anything that controversial ha.
So I have come to two conclusions:
- Haters are always gonna hate no matter what you do. But as a woman specifically I have noticed that we seem to have to walk this line between being sweet and a bitch. Sweet girls get pushed around and walked all over but they are admired for being “sweet.” Girls who are not shy about how they feel and what they want get more of those things but they are labeled as a bitch. Men who share the same qualities are simply seen as a man. In fact men don’t get labeled at all for being well spoken about their beliefs or how they feel. Hmm, Interesting. A woman who feels strongly about anything and speaks about it will always be viewed with hostility by some, because women are powerful and we scare people 😉 haha. So I am learning to accept that this is how people will react to me but I am not willing to accept the idea that a woman is either a bitch or sweet, that knowing how you believe about something and holding your ground makes you a bitch. It just doesn’t. But I will wear that bad boy badge proudly. I’m a bitch people. I know exactly how I feel about everything, except when it comes to where or what to eat. Then I have no idea how I feel ever haha. But if being a bitch means having an opinion and sticking to it. If it means being confident in myself and my views, if it means writing blog posts that are too honest and make you uncomfortable, if it means putting myself out there every day in a super vulnerable way but standing strongly behind it, then yes. Yes, I am a Bitch. (Capital B please). I’m a kind, loving, caring, smart, Bitch. Ha.
- I was talking to my Mom the other day and she gave me some seriously honest feedback that I really needed to hear. She said that if I am putting my writings, videos, pictures up on the internet then the people who see it have the right to comment on it. SO true. I can’t expect the whole world to agree with me or even be nice about it. After all, to most people I am just some chick on the other side of a computer screen. I thought about what she said a lot the last two days. I have decided that I will continue to do what I do and I will fully accept that each person has the right to comment and respond to what I do. BUT, I don’t have to explain myself. I don’t even have to respond to their comments. I will share my thoughts, my creative expressions, but I will not explain myself further than that. As a woman if you are constantly reassuring people of your decisions you’ll spend your whole life just doing that. I’m way too busy for that. So, confidently I go into the night!!
Today is a fresh, brand new day, I feel strong, intelligent, beautiful, healthy, loving, and kind 🙂
(P.S. If you didn’t know Trav has been posting daily Vlogs on his YouTube channel of our adventures. Here is the link to his channel Travis Eric. You should definitely check them out.)
Love and Light